mentee. In this way, the mutual learning process begins as the mentor
works to understand how to connect with the younger man and begin
to get through to his mentee. In the midst of this cycle, the mentor
must take time to do some personal reflection. As mentioned in the
book Dial M for Mentor, the job of a mentor is to look inward and figure
out how best to relate to others. In this way, it becomes the role of the
mentee to teach the mentor. For example, the instance with Maguire’s
art serves an extremely important function in developing their
relationship and improving the manner in which they communicate. In
one scene when Maguire has Will by the neck, he is not coming across
as an elitist intellectual but rather a guy from Southie, someone Will can
connect with through shared experiences, which leads to a
breakthrough moment. In figuring out how to get across to Will,
Maguire also recognizes Will's weakness. The younger man lacks the
ability to take life seriously and, therefore, always proceeds with caution
and never gives too much of himself to away anything or anyone.
Critical in the formation of the mentor-mentee relationship,
Maguire probes just enough to allow Will to recognize this in himself
as well. This moment, when Will recognizes this weakness in himself as
a result of Maguire's mentoring, exhibits the growth that has taken place
and represents the final stage of mentorship, which includes self-
actualization for both individuals involved (Hayes 444). That being said,
Will then takes the opportunity to shed light on what he has uncovered
about Maguire during their time spent together. He accuses the
therapist of "cashing in his chips and walking away" after the death of
his wife, instead of "having the guts to ante up again." Even though this
is a hostile moment between the mentor and mentee, it is also the
moment when it dawns on both of them that they know one another
well enough to point out their respective truths and realities. In addition
to mutual self-actualization, another indicator of the final stage of
mentoring is the review of the relationship and changing of roles
(Hayes 444), and in this instance, there is an evident role reversal that
offers new and important insights. The claim Will is making about
Maguire is one that requires thoughtful contemplation and reflection
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