unwilling to accept help, but this is why it is so important that a mentor
have the capacity to remain supportive of their mentee even through
difficult exchanges. Over time, Ben expresses how well he knows Jules
by completing the tasks that looming over her, which exhibits his
devotion to and investment in her. This depiction of the mentor shows
that he has the ability to read Jules and to recognize her shortcomings,
which builds his credibility as an emotionally intelligent mentor. In
order to be an effective mentor figure, one must possess the capability
to read the emotional states and capacities of others (Philip and Hendry
213). On top of that, it is critical that mentors find ways to become part
of their mentees’ personal lives. When this takes place, trust can be
established, which sets the stage for the beginning to mutual learning.
Ben's first moment as a true mentor comes when he questions Jules
regarding one of the many CEOs she has been interviewing to help
manage her company. He is curious about her business transactions and
challenges her, which has been noted as one of the essential practices
of an effective mentor. At the same time, as Jules questions Ben about
his corporate experience and hears what advice he has for her, it
becomes apparent to Jules that she can indeed learn from this older
man. Herein lies the building of trust and rapport between Ben and
Jules, which is one an essential element in establishing a mentor-mentee
relationship (Scherman 12).
It cannot go unnoticed, however, that when taking on the
“mentor,” role Ben tends to speak and interact with Jules in a
condescending manner. During a heart-to-heart moment between Jules
and Ben when Jules’s vulnerability is at an all-time high, she states in
frustration, “God I wish your expressions weren't so transparent.” This
quotation tells the audience Jules thinks Ben is judging her for feeling
the way she does. As a man many years her elder, Ben can’t help but
respond a bit arrogantly because he thinks he knows best. Mentors are
supposed to see themselves as providing support and challenge to
young adults while viewing them as equals (Philip and Hendry 217), but
Ben cannot seem to do this. It does begin to dawn on him, however,
that times have changed from when he was growing up. Individuals now
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