As parents, the choices we make do affect our children.
The recurring message in the Old Testament about the iniquity
of the parents being visited upon the children is realistic. Yet I
also know that if there are things we desire to do differently
and change within our own nuclear families, this can happen.
Rather than repeat or rebel, there is a third way. We can
mindfully choose to carry forward those things that we value
from our own childhood and at the same time make shifts
around the things we want to shed. Very often, the impetus for
such a change is the entrance of something dramatic and oft
times painful into our lives. For me, this was just around the
Dear sons of mine,
I stand with Kierkegaard in this sentiment: “Life can only be
understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” There
was much that your young mom had little understanding of as
she joyfully welcomed you into this world. Though
acknowledgement of this truth is critical, the deeper regret
softens as time passes and forgiveness is extended. All that has
come before today informs and revamps the relationship of
this day as we walk hand in hand with grace alongside.
My wish for you is that with mindfulness and intention, you
will shed repeating and rebelling, and choose your own way
forward. It is with great love and respect that I stand on the
sidelines and cheer you on as you create your very own story.
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