Chapter 4 – Surrender to Self-Care
“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to
me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show
you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me.
Watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I
won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company
with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly. “ Matthew
11:28-30, The Message
In the early days of family with three sons, we fell into
routines. For about ten years as I turned thirty and then forty,
life with our three sons rolled along. Mark worked long hours
and traveled frequently. I took pride in my independence and
ability to “keep it all afloat” on the home front. Sometimes
friends and I would look askance at moms who needed more
hands on help from their husbands. My own blurred sense of
self and family allowed me to see myself as having it all
together. We had a traditional division of labor, and I settled
into the role of stay-at-home mom.
My natural inclination was to live life in the fast lane.
That looked something like this: volunteer everywhere my kids
are involved and places beyond; take on leadership roles at
school and church; have kids signed up for multiple activities
at a time requiring carpools, driving back and forth across
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