personal challenges as a mom, and my hope that they will make
different choices if they choose to parent. Now it is up to them.
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A few summers ago, when my older daughter was
between the sixth and seventh grades, we had about five days
together in our home. Mark and our youngest child traveled to
visit family in Chicago. I invited my girl to read the “daughter
half” of the book Mothering and Daughtering: Keeping Your Bond
Strong Through the Teenage Years by Eliza and Sil Reynolds. This
child is an introvert, loves to read, and delights in quiet time
alone. She is a quiet soul whose voice often gets drowned out
by those around her. Though I offered that we could head to
the beach or mountains to discuss this book, she chose to stay
home. We had time and space to connect and enjoy each other
on a deeper level than is afforded during the everydays of life.
It was a special time that I will always remember.
Though she rolled her eyes and wasn’t too sure about
discussing this book together, she complied. Interspersed
around the discussion times, we did things we enjoy both
separately and together. We made great memories and shared
deep emotions, as we laughed and connected in significant
ways. “Mothering and Daughtering” provided a structure and
springboard for deeper communication. She got to tell me
what I am doing well and where I can improve. I shared with
her stories of my growing up days and relationships. We binge
watched “Once Upon a Time,” cooked and ate delicious food
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