THE GAME CHANGER
Yet it is only love which sets us free.
As I approached the age of forty, empty nest life was
on the horizon. This appealed to my husband, but not to me.
I had structured so much of my energy and identity around the
role of mother as well as school and church volunteer. Since
the possibility of adoption simmered just below the surface of
my heart, this seemed like a good time to start dropping hints
and pursuing conversation with Mark. We went to a meeting
to learn more about becoming foster parents, but I didn’t feel
emotionally prepared for the ups and downs of that particular
During this time period, in the early 2000’s, many US
evangelical leaders began to issue a call – a call to adoption. A
number of high profile religious leaders and entertainers either
adopted children themselves or joined the swelling voice and
call for Christians to adopt orphans. Adoption became almost
contagious within this group. Laced with messages of saving
children and Christian duty, it appealed to a variety of people,
some with a savior complex. There was often a romantic and
beautiful veneer brushed across this call. I joined the ranks.