possible, it is truly best for your child if you are only good
enough.” A wave of grace washed over me. It is even better for
my child when I am simply good enough rather than when I
waste energy pursuing elusive perfection. This invitation to
stop pressuring myself relieved internal tension and a
committed pursuit of good enough parenting ensued.
As most thoughtful human beings will acknowledge,
true change is hard work and does not happen overnight. But
I have been able to change, grow, and reorient my parenting
mindset as well as practices. In many ways, the writing of this
book is a great big owning of my part.
If I did not take time and energy to closely examine
how my very own history, choices, and actions affect those that
I love most, I would just bumble along through life
unintentionally hurting people all along the way. I would
continue to passively choose unhealthy ways to cope and deal,
and I would miss out on so much joy. I wholeheartedly believe
that beauty can come from ashes.
I have seen it with my own eyes. But this beauty is one
that has required a great deal of intention and mindfulness.
Unlike the beauty we can all access in nature, this type requires
a willingness to labor and commit to a long haul journey.
This journey has led me to a number of surprising